Unique Challenges of Military Divorce and How to Overcome Them


By Caryn Fennell April 14, 2025

Divorce is never easy, but military divorces come with their own set of complexities that make the process particularly challenging. Whether it’s navigating unique laws, dealing with jurisdictional issues, or handling the impact of deployments on custody arrangements, military couples often face hurdles that civilians don’t encounter. If you or your spouse are in the armed forces, understanding these challenges—and how to overcome them—can help make the process smoother and less stressful.

Key Challenges in Military Divorce

1. Jurisdiction and Location Issues One of the first questions in a military divorce is where to file. Unlike civilian divorces, where jurisdiction is typically tied to residency, military divorces can involve multiple options. Courts could determine jurisdiction based on the service member’s legal residence, the spouse’s residence, or the location where the service member is stationed. This flexibility can complicate things, particularly when spouses live in different states—or even countries.

2. The Role of Federal Laws Military divorces differ from civilian divorces due to the involvement of federal laws like the Uniformed Services Former Spouses’ Protection Act (USFSPA) and the Servicemembers Civil Relief Act (SCRA).

USFSPA allows state courts to treat military pensions as marital property and divide them during a divorce. Understanding who is entitled to what, and when, can require specialized legal advice.

SCRA protects service members by temporarily halting or postponing legal proceedings—like divorce or custody hearings—due to active deployment or other military responsibilities. While this law ensures fairness, it can delay the legal process and cause prolonged uncertainty.

3. Child Custody Complications Child custody decisions in military divorces are far from straightforward. Deployments, frequent relocations, and unpredictable schedules can make it difficult for service members to commit to a traditional custody arrangement. The SCRA further complicates matters by allowing custody to be temporarily suspended during active duty, creating potential challenges for both parents.

4. Dividing Military Benefits Military divorces must also address unique assets like pensions, benefits, and healthcare. For example, military spouses may be entitled to commissary, medical, and exchange privileges under certain circumstances, but eligibility depends on the marriage’s duration and the service member’s length of service. Dividing these benefits equitably can be complicated without expert legal guidance.

5. Communication Barriers Military life often involves long distances, deployments, and intense schedules, which can affect communication between divorcing spouses. Poor communication can slow down negotiations and worsen conflicts, making it harder to reach a settlement.

How to Overcome These Challenges

1. Seek Legal Expertise Military divorce is a complex area of law that involves both state and federal regulations. Choosing an attorney with experience in military divorce ensures you’ll have someone who understands your unique situation and can guide you through jurisdictional challenges, benefit divisions, and custody arrangements. Specialized military divorce lawyers, like those at Fennell, Briasco, & Associates, can help you protect your rights and achieve a fair resolution.

2. Understand Your Legal Rights Education is key when navigating the complexities of a military divorce. Take the time to learn about laws that might affect your case, such as the SCRA, USFSPA, and TRICARE benefit rules. Being informed puts you in a stronger position to make decisions that protect your interests.

3. Focus on Effective Communication Effective communication can help minimize misunderstandings and conflicts. If direct communication isn’t possible due to tensions or distance, consider using mediation or online tools to facilitate discussions and negotiations.

4. Plan Child Custody Strategically When it comes to child custody, flexibility is crucial in military divorces. Work with your ex-spouse to create a custody plan that accounts for potential deployments or relocations, and consider including provisions to address unexpected scheduling changes. Courts tend to prioritize the child’s best interests, so a well-thought-out plan can go a long way toward ensuring stability and fairness.

5. Plan for Financial Implications Military divorces can involve complicated financial divisions, especially when pensions and benefits are on the line. Having a clear understanding of how these assets will be split—and making adjustments to your financial plans accordingly—can help you avoid surprises. Consulting a financial adviser or attorney with expertise in military benefits is a smart step to protect your future.

Why Legal Guidance Matters

Military divorces require specialized knowledge of both civilian and military laws to ensure a fair outcome for both parties. Lawyers who concentrate on military family law, like those at FBA Law Firm, have experience navigating these complicated processes. They can help with everything from determining the right jurisdiction to dividing benefits and creating custody plans, setting you up for the best possible results.

Partner With Professionals

Military divorces are different from civilian divorces in every sense. Trying to manage them alone can lead to mistakes or missed opportunities to protect your rights. Specialized attorneys not only simplify the process but also provide peace of mind, allowing you to focus on what matters most—your family and your future. Fennell, Briasco, & Associates have helped many in military with their divorce and family matters.

Strategic Approach is Paramount

Going through a military divorce comes with unique challenges, but with the right approach and professional support, you can overcome them. Focus on understanding your rights, working toward amicable resolutions, and seeking professional help when needed. By doing so, you’ll be better equipped to protect your interests and begin the next chapter of your life with confidence. Whether it’s navigating jurisdictional issues, dividing benefits, or tackling custody arrangements, a strategic and informed approach can make all the difference.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • How do federal laws like the USFSPA and SCRA affect military divorces?

    Federal laws play a significant role in military divorces. The Uniformed Services Former Spouses’ Protection Act (USFSPA) allows state courts to divide military pensions during a divorce, treating them as marital property. Meanwhile, the Servicemembers Civil Relief Act (SCRA) protects service members by delaying legal proceedings, such as divorce hearings, during deployments or active duty. These laws ensure fairness but also add complexity to the process.

  • Why is it important to hire a specialized military divorce attorney like FBA Law Firm?

    Military divorce attorneys have expertise in both civilian and military laws, making them uniquely qualified to handle complex issues such as dividing military pensions, navigating jurisdictional challenges, and addressing child custody during deployments. Their guidance ensures your rights are protected throughout the process, saving time and reducing stress.

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